A few nice vacation to go images I found:
Marlene Dietrich - 'Blonde Venus' (1932) ... Wandering Eyes (March 7, 2013 / 25 Adar 5773) ...item 2e.. Marlene Dietrich at Berns 1963 -- Sag mir, wo die Blumen sind ...
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Women have been given what the Torah calls, binah yesera, an extra dose of intuition, and this is the situation where we need to use this skill to figure out how to respond. Nagging and criticism are not only unlikely to be effective but may push him to act out and engage in this behavior even more (perhaps to assert his independence).
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.....item 1).... Dear Emuna: Wandering Eyes ... aish.com ... www.aish.com/ci/de ...
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My husband thinks it’s normal to notice the prettiest woman in the room.
March 7, 2013 / 25 Adar 5773
by Emuna Braverman
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Dear Emuna,
Whenever my husband and I go out, he always comments on or even pays attention to the prettiest woman in the room. I have told him repeatedly that it bothers me but he dismisses my concerns by saying that his reaction is normal and that I should just chill. Is he right? It makes me not want to go out with him. Am I overreacting? What should I do?
Paranoid Wife
Dear Loving Wife,
As they say, “Just because you’re paranoid doesn’t mean they’re not out to get you” Or, to paraphrase, it doesn’t mean it’s not true. I don’t believe that you are overreacting. You are correct that your husband should keep his eyes to himself (or on you!). In fact, on Yom Kippur, men have to specifically repent for their wandering eyes.
But, as with many things in marriage, the question is not who is right but how to handle it. In this case, I understand how you could find this painful and demeaning, even though your husband probably does not mean it that way and is likely more “clueless” than malicious. Your job is to determine the most effective way to achieve your goals.
Women have been given what the Torah calls, binah yesera, an extra dose of intuition, and this is the situation where we need to use this skill to figure out how to respond. Nagging and criticism are not only unlikely to be effective but may push him to act out and engage in this behavior even more (perhaps to assert his independence).
So what should you do? I think you should begin my doing everything you can to keep his attention on you and your relationship. If you are going out together, dress up for him. Talk to him, be interested in him, ask him questions about his thoughts.
You may bristle at this advice. After all, he’s making the mistake, why is it your responsibility? But the answer is that you are in this together and you want to make every effort to enhance your marriage. I do believe that the more attention a man gets from his wife, the less likely his eyes are to wander. Perhaps you’ve stopped trying, perhaps you take the relationship for granted, perhaps you’re too tired to make the effort. We can never stop trying, we can never stop making the effort – not if we want our marriages to stay alive. And that applies to every one, in every marriage, whether their husband has wandering eyes or not.
If, in spite of your best efforts, he continues in this behavior, I recommend that you go for some counseling. Maybe he will be able to hear from a third party what he can’t hear from you – how demeaning and insensitive his behavior feels to you. And maybe he will be able to express in a safe environment that it is certainly not his intention to hurt you and the two of you will be able to work out better communication skills and behaviors.
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--- WHERE’S THE LIMELIGHT?
Dear Emuna,
Last night was my daughter’s school production, their big song and dance extravaganza. She has been practicing for weeks and talked of nothing else so I was very excited to go. But the experience wasn’t as pleasant as I had anticipated. I understand that certain talented girls will always get the lead dramatic roles, musical solos and dance parts. But beyond that, it seemed to me that some girls were in every dance or choir number (and front and center no less) while my daughter’s dance group got about 30 seconds of stage time. As my daughter said to me on her way out the door, “Don’t blink or you will miss me.” While I enjoyed many aspects of the production, I was unable to quell my feelings of frustration and resentment. Can you help me?
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--- Green-Eyed Monster Mom
Dear Tiger Mom,
You are clearly a mother who is zealous on behalf of her daughter. That is good. It is a mother’s/parent’s job to look out for her children, to be their advocate, to want their best. This is just a variation of that instinct – taken to an extreme. Because it’s certainly not clear that a lead role – with all the accompanying honor and attention – is always what’s best for our children.
The most important issue here is your daughter’s attitude. Did she like participating in the play? Was she as frustrated and resentful as you or did she just have a good time? Was she able to enjoy the sense of unity and fun that rippled through the whole school?
Was her comment meant good-naturedly or was it an expression of pique?
If she is fine (and perhaps even more than fine), don’t allow your frustration to communicate itself to her.
Don’t spoil her experience and, above all, don’t introduce jealousy and resentment where there is none.
Your daughter will take her cues from you so you need to get over it! If she has the ability to take true pleasure in the good of others, then learn from her good character. Sometimes our children are our best teachers.
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--- WINNING BY CHEATING
Dear Emuna,
My 5-year-old daughter likes to play games. The problem is that she’s always changing the rules, dare I say cheating, to make sure that she wins. Is this normal or is it a bad quality that I must immediately try to uproot?
Unsure Mom
Dear Uncertain Mom,
Most likely that is just a reflection of the innate desire to win, our inherent self-centeredness and it’s certainly not uncommon in children of her age.
A very positive spin would suggest that she is a very creative person whose talents are inhibited by things like “rules” in games (that’s the excuse my husband makes when we play Scrabble!).
But since life does indeed have rules we need to follow, and since we do want to encourage honesty, I would gently introduce the idea of choosing some rules at the beginning of the game and sticking with them (although I wouldn’t fight about it). This is consistent with the Torah’s dictum “M’dvar sheker tirchak,” “Stay far away from falsehoods.”
I don’t think there’s anything to worry about at this point but I do think you should slowly and carefully try to weed out this behavior, both for her character’s sake and for her social life. Other children will only put up with this type of action for so long before they react negatively to it and then the “winner” needs to do a little bullying to keep getting her way.
Again, I don’t think you are at that point and I don’t think it’s cause for concern at the moment. I just think you should act (slowly, carefully, gently) before it is.
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.....item 2a.1).... Marlene Dietrich - Hot Voodoo Lyrics ...
Artist: Marlene Dietrich
Album: Miscellaneous
Genre: World
... SONGLYRICS - Know the Words ... www.songlyrics.com/
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Did you ever happen to hear of voodoo?
Hear it and you won't give a damn what you do
Tom-tom's put me under a sort of voodoo
And the whole night long
I don't know the right from wrong
Hot voodoo, black as mud
Hot voodoo, in my blood
That African tempo, has made a slave
Hot voodoo, dance of sin
Hot voodoo, worse than gin
I'd follow a cave man right into his cave
That beat gives me a wicked sensation
My conscious wants to take a vacation
Got voodoo, head to toes
Hot voodoo, burn my clothes
I want to start dancing, just wearing a smile
Hot voodoo, I'm aflame
I'm really not to blame
That African tempo is meaner than mean
Hot voodoo make me brave
I want to misbehave
I'm beginning to feel like an African queen
Those drums bring up the heaven inside me
I need some great big angel to guide me
Hot voodoo, makes me wild
Oh fireman, save this child
I going to blazes
I want to be bad
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.....item 2a.2).... youtube video ... Marlen Dietrich dancing in Gorilla costume ... 3:29 minutes
www.youtube.com/watch?v=EzLP_2Wi_nY
iflushed nemo
Uploaded on Jul 7, 2010
Marlene Dietrich in 1932's Blonde Venus. I make no claims of ownership of this material.
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Comedy
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.....item 2b).... youtube video ... Marlene Dietrich - Black Market ! ... 4:30 minutes
www.youtube.com/watch?v=5VbeKstCPKg
Serch Dietrich
Uploaded on Sep 18, 2011
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Film & Animation
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.....item 2c).... youtube video ... Marlene Dietrich - Somethin' I dreamed last night ... 3:40 minutes
www.youtube.com/watch?v=wd-n-CBijxM
annpham
Uploaded on Mar 27, 2008
Marlene Dietrich sings the song "Somethin' I dreamed last night". I love to listen to this song at night, when I'm alone studying:)
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.....item 2d).... youtube video ... Marlene Dietrich "Awake In A Dream" (Desire, 1936). ... 2:22 minutes ...
www.youtube.com/watch?v=kAcgtwb9N1g
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Uploaded on May 10, 2010
Marlene Dietrich 1901-1992. Chanson et photos tirées du film "Desire" de Frank Borzage sorti en 1936.
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.....item 2e).... youtube video ... Marlene Dietrich at Berns 1963 ... 37:06 minutes ...
www.youtube.com/watch?v=FXiOdgz_2WE
BernsSalonger
Published on Jul 10, 2012
The singer, actress and mega star Marlene Dietrich visited Berns in 1963 for a sold out concert in Stockholm. The show was a success and Marlene Dietrich, although over her sixties, made an amazing impression on the swedish audience. She sang the following:
- I Can't Give You Anything But Love, Baby ....... --- time line 03:25
- La vie en rose ...................................................... --- time line 05:59
- The Boys in the Backroom ................................ --- time line 09:15
- Jonny, wenn du Geburtstag hast ................... --- time line 11:29
- The Laziest Gal in Town .................................. --- time line 15:20
- Lola ...................................................................... --- time line 18:20
- Honeysuckle Rose ........................................... --- time line 20:35
- Lili Marlene .............................................. --- time line 23:40
- Sag' mir wo die Blumen sind ............... --- time line 27:14
- Falling in Love Again .............................. --- time line 31.52
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Lili Marleen
English lyrics (David)
Mack David is credited for the American version (published in 1943 as "Lili Marlene") made famous by Marlene Dietrich, though there is speculation that Dietrich actually may have written some or all of those English lyrics herself.
Outside the barracks, by the corner light
I'll always stand and wait for you at night
We will create a world for two
I'll wait for you the whole night through
For you, Lili Marlene
For you, Lili Marlene
Bugler, tonight, don't play the call to arms
I want another evening with her charms
Then we will say good-bye and part
I'll always keep you in my heart
With me, Lili Marlene
With me, Lili Marlene
Give me a rose to show how much you care
Tied to the stem, a lock of golden hair
Surely, tomorrow, you'll feel blue
But then will come a love that's new
For you, Lili Marlene
For you, Lili Marlene
When we are marching in the mud and cold
And when my pack seems more than I can hold
My love for you renews my might
I'm warm again, my pack is light
It's you, Lili Marlene
It's you, Lili Marlene
My love for you renews my might
I'm warm again, my pack is light
It's you, Lili Marlene
It's you, Lili Marlene
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